I’ve been quiet. Things have been weird the last couple years and it wasn’t just COVID.
Right before the pandemic got bad in the States, after almost nine and a half years together (roughly six and half of those married), my husband and I separated. We had just moved into a new apartment with separate bedrooms, because who the hell can afford an apartment on their own in Phoenix in 2020.
Then COVID happened.
We were both sent to work from home for two weeks while this thing blows over. I am very sarcastically proud to say that we recently passed the two year anniversary of working from home for only two weeks. It be like that now, I guess.
Being stuck at home with the person who broke my heart was not good for me mentally. Fights absolutely did happen. Tears (mine) were definitely shed. I felt like I was going crazy as my world was crashing down around me. If it weren’t for my online friends who became my chosen family, I would not be here today. I’m eternally grateful for them.
Fast forward to summer 2021, I’m still in the apartment with my future ex-husband because COVID really fucked up apartment searching and as someone who has had asthma since I was three years old, I wasn’t eager to go out and about. Despite all of that, I feel better. Call it something clicked in my brain that told me I had no reason to be sad and jealous or call it the medication I’m on works.
At the end of last month, I started moving into my new apartment. My recent promotion at work has afforded me the ability to probably live on my own. But I think it’s super important not only for my friendship with my ex-husband, but for my mental health. I’ve even started dating someone. And reader, she is amazing. She is everything a partner should be. The downside to it is she living in Connecticut.
I was in Connecticut back in November to visit her for my birthday and it was wonderful. It was so nice to see fall leaves again. I even got to go to the Bronx Zoo in New York!
I plan on being a bit more active on this in the coming year. I have more trips planned, like going to Salem, MA in October!
Until next time!