cli-ché: \klē-ˈshā\ noun
a trite phrase or expression; also : the idea expressed by it
The use of clichés give us a way to further what we are trying to express to others in conversation. On a daily basis, we are likely to hear clichés and let them roll off our own tongues without realizing. If you have a WordPress account, the grammar-check will even underline the cliché in blue when you are using one.
I can understand there is no clarity or depth in telling your newly single friend that “life is like a box of chocolates,” or that “there are plenty of fish in the sea.” However, there are some clichés that deserve more credit in their meaning.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Out of sight, out of mind
Each of these clichés has their share of believable aspects. Recently, I have brainstormed which is more accurate in relation to general failed relationships, as well as many of my own falling outs. Trying to find resolution in any ending is hard. A lot of the time we stuff our brains with false hope that will only temporarily heal pain, or hang on to empty promises of a happy reunion. While everyone has their ways of coping with change, these two clichés offer the opportunity to pick a route of recovery; moving on or hopefulness.
We are comforted by the idea of absence making the heart grow fonder, but if this is true, then it also applies to all bad situations, too, such as breakups.
So how can I tell anyone, including myself, with any conviction that one is more true over the other? Should I tell my emotionally unstable friend that as long as that two-timing scumbag is out of her life for long enough, the sadness will go away?
It is easy to sit back and reminisce on the good times, and in many cases I have seen first hand, this is usually how it works. People retreat to happier moments, and the loneliness and heartache never really go away. They actually become slightly more obsessive and in love with the person who is out of their life; thus, debunking ‘out of sight, out of mind’ (especially in an era where social networking is a form a legal stalking.)
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